Feeling guilty of not being successful?

How to stop struggling with your life?

If you feel that you didn't achieve your goals, this article is for you!

Why do you feel so?

In our society, there is a rough stress to achieve success standards, they are-obeviosly- fame and money.

Everyone out there is telling you that you can beat your hard struggles, self helpers and influencers have a main role to convince you with that.

Every business man\celebirty is counting their success due to their effort.

But is this the real story?

Can anyone achieve those standards?

Well,

If so? Why we aren’t all billionaires?

Is it just because we don’t wake up early and play yoga??

Or do we miss the secret element of success?

Reality is, to achieve those standards, we need a combination of resources that not everyone has access to.

For example, It doesn't matter how hard you try to be an Olympic swimmer hero, if no one had taught you the basics of swimming.

Or if you don’t have a place where you can train.

Can you catch what I mean?

You need resources beside your effort. In some cases, the resources without your efforts will be enough.

But do you think that a successful person will admit that??

Of course not!

He or She wants to live their epic success story, to add some struggles, to take the validation that they earn it.

On the other hand, most of the people don’t have the access to reach the standard.

Most of us will have an average life with average expectations.

Even if you think of it from a mathematical perspective, you will notice that the precious resources on earth are limited. Hence, it’s impossible to make everybody rich or famous or both.

Plus, you can be an average person and have a happy life.

How to get rid of that feeling?

Dare to be average, to have a normal life that has no specials.

Accept to be normal, mediocre, cringe or whatever everyone is calling the average person nowadays.

You're trying everyday so hard to impress your society, to achieve their standards.

Stop it, think of you as a person who is living on his own planet, deciding his standard.

How to be average?

1- All the standards are fake and they are changing from an era to era.

Imagine yourself living in the Romanian empire, the standards of success were the no of people you killed.

So, these standards are seeds that society sow it in your mind.

2-Give yourself excuses!

When you compare yourself with Elon musk's success story, remember that he is probably a liar, he wants to impress everyone by telling an emotional story about how smart he is.

Reality is, he is a rich man with strong relationships and has access to the world's leaders. So, it is easy for him to have that much of money and the publicity that gives him an emotional success story.

3-Compare.

The only one you can compare yourself with is You!

Compare your current state with the last week’s, last month's, yesterday's.

You’ll find that you’re trying to be a good father\mother\partner\coleauge. You are trying and that’s enough.

4-Audit.

Whenever you hear a success story, think that the storyteller is trying to sell something. Maybe his skills, his products or even himself.

People aren’t angles, don’t get fooled easily.

5-Counsel your therapist.

Your therapist will help you to minimize the false ideas of guilty.

Do you have any other techniques that helped you before? Let us know it on the comments.